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Oct 2021
10m 39s

Don't Make This Mistake w/ Social Anxiet...

MARK METRY
About this episode
“Just do it”

“Just be confident”

“Just talk to them”

“Just be yourself”

By far the biggest mistake people make is going 1 v 1 against social anxiety without any tools or reinforcements other than just forcing it with the phrases above.

When I was in college, I was in the same situation…

I would try to walk up to someone sitting alone in the cafeteria or library and force myself to try and talk to them. Almost every single time I would muster up the courage… I felt a part of my brain, my nervous system would hold me back no matter what I tried to do.

No matter what I did I couldn’t be myself in front of someone else. I had mostly avoided these feelings my whole life by staying small, shy, and quiet, but no more. I had gotten sick and tired of being sick and tired.

But now, I had finally taken a shot to get out of my comfort zone but I still failed :/

This led me down the thought pattern of no matter what I do I’m screwed.

No matter how much effort I put in, there’s nothing I can do to change how I act and my lack of confidence and I’m going to be stuck like this forever!

Ladies and gentlemen, this mindset and worldview creates the exact environment needed for depression, hopelessness, social isolation, and more :(

Listen to this episode to learn more on how to avoid the biggest mistake people make with anxiety.


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