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Jun 2021
19m 11s

The Right to Fail at Marriage

The New York Times
About this episode

In 2004, the comedian Cameron Esposito sat on the steps of Boston City Hall and watched as some of the first legally married same-sex couples in the United States emerged victoriously as newlyweds. Thirteen years, three boyfriends and 10 girlfriends later, Cameron was ready to marry the woman she assumed she would be with forever.

“I expected to perfectly navigate marriage like some sort of lesbian phoenix that never stops rising,” Cameron wrote in her 2019 Modern Love essay. But when she found herself alone and knocked down, failing at marriage, she developed a new understanding of the privileges she had long been fighting for. You can find more information on today's episode here

Featured stories: 

  • “New Hope, New Pain, Same Old Divorce” by Cameron Esposito
  • "Here’s a Chair for You” by Gayle Brandeis
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